It started with a child and ended with a broken marriage. Husband got girlfriend outside, threaten to take away children. That's just so childish thing to do. What goes around comes around. She's just my age and she need to go through all these :( I don't know how to use nice words to comfort her, I'm bad at it. I just advice her to leave. For people using child to threaten, their mind will never function well. So just leave. I'm not sure if I advice the right thing. But as an outsider I thought this would be the best for her and her children 180 degree turn over. Never judge a book by its cover.